Category: Must reads for parents

  • Useful parenting abbreviation and acronym cheatsheet

    If you’re new in the parenting world or into parenting forums, you might be surprised by all the weird jargon used.

    AF, DS, PG… Lots of words are being replace by abbreviations. It can make it extra difficult to understand what people are talking about.

    To help stay connected, we’ve created this parenting glossaries with the most usual acronyms.

    A
    AF
    Aunt flo or menstrual cycle
    AI
    Artificial insemination
    B
    BBT
    Basal body temperature
    BC
    Birth control
    BCP
    Birth control pills
    BD
    Baby dance (sex for the purpose of conception)
    BF
    Breastfeeding
    BFN
    Big fat negative (pregnancy test)
    BFP
    Big fat positive (pregnancy test)
    BIL
    Brother-in-law
    BLW
    Baby-led weaning
    BM
    Breast milk
    C
    C/S
    Cesarean section
    CD
    Cycle day
    CF
    Cervical fluid
    CIO
    Cry it out
    CM
    Cervical mucus
    D
    DC
    Daycare
    DCP 
    Daycare provider
    DD
    Dear daughter
    DDB
    Due date buddy
    DE
    Donor eggs
    DF
    dear fiance
    DH
    Dear husband
    DIL
    Daughter-in-law
    DPO
    Days post-ovulation
    DS
    Dear son
    DSD
    Dear stepdaughter
    DSS
    Dear stepson
    DW
    Dear wife
    DuH
    Dumb husband
    DuW
    Dumb wife
    E
    EBF
    Extended breastfeeding or exclusively breastfed
    EBM
    Expressed breast milk
    EDD
    Estimated due date or expected date of delivery
    F
    FF
    Formula feeding
    FIL
    Father-in-law
    FTM
    First time mum
    H
    H&H9
    Happy and healthy nine months (congratulations on your pregnancy)
    HOM
    High order multiples
    HPT
    Home pregnancy test
    I
    IC
    Incompetent cervix
    IF
    Infertility
    IUI
    Intrauterine insemination
    IVF
    In vitro fertilization
    L
    L&D
    Labor and delivery
    LO
    Little one
    LP
    Luteal phase
    M
    MC or M/C
    Miscarriage
    MIL
    Mother-in-law
    ML 
    Maternity leave
    MM
    Mother’s milk
    MS or M/S
    Morning sickness
    MW
    Midwife
    N
    NAK
    Nursing at keyboard
    NIP
    Nursing in public
    O
    O
    Ovulation
    O’d
    Ovulated
    P
    PG
    Pregnant
    POAS
    Pee on a stick (i.e. pregnancy test)
    PP
    Postpartum 
    PPD
    Postpartum depression
    R
    RE
    Reproductive endocrinologist
    S
    SAHD
    Stay-at-home dad
    SAHM
    Stay-at-home mum
    SAHP
    Stay-at-home parent
    SD
    Sperm donor
    SIL
    Sister-in-law
    SO
    Significant other
    STBX
    Soon-to-be-ex (spouse)
    T
    TTC
    Trying to conceive
    U
    US or U/S
    Ultrasound 
    V
    VBAC
    Vaginal birth after cesarean section
    W
    WAH
    Work at home
    WAHD
    Work-at-home dad
    WAHM
    Work-at-home mum
    WOH
    Work-out-of-home
    WOHD
    Work-outside-home dad
    WOHM
    Work-outside-home mum
    X
    XH
    Ex-husband
    XW
    Ex-wife
  • Monthly must reads for parents – November Edition

    Parenting is a joy and a privilege. It’s also frustrating, heart-breaking and tiring. This month’s focus is on understanding that having children is incredibly hard work, no parent is perfect and sometimes life can be tough.

    What Part of No Doesn’t Your Kid Understand on Aha! Parenting.com

    Read this. Now! The empathy, wisdom and practical advice in this article from ‘Aha! Parenting.com’ is simply wonderful. The writer looks at ‘naughty’ behaviour from the child’s perspective while encouraging boundaries and introducing clever ways to diffuse a tantrum. 

    The Hardest Words at the Hardest of Times on ParentingPhils.co.uk

    This guest post on ‘ParentingPhils.co.uk’ during this month’s ‘Children’s Grief Awareness Week’ is beautifully written and achingly sad. A gorgeous tribute to a beloved Grandad and the toddler who adored him. 

    How do you tell a two-year-old that he won’t see his smiling, loving, patient Grandad again? Hopefully you won’t need it, but this is a wonderful example of how to do it with kindness and love. 

    What Kind Of Parental Involvement In Education Works Best? on ChildandFamilyblog.com

    Early years education is a source of worry for many parents. Sending your four-year-old of to school for the first time is difficult. The health, safety and education of your child has been entrusted to a teacher and their assistant. 

    This study from ‘ChildandFamilyblog.com’ into how a parent can aid their child’s development and education is fascinating. Written by an academic this blog is in-depth and wordy but will provide you with the confidence to support your child’s learning. 

    Building Resilience in Children on Fegans.org.uk

    Each stage of parenting has its challenges. In the early days you think that sleepless nights will be the hardest thing to deal with. During the terrible twos you decide that nothing will ever be as difficult as a tantrum in the supermarket. 

    Helping your child cope with upsetting things outside of your control will trump both the newborn cries and angry wails. 

    This blog from Christian charity Fegans.org.uk is a useful and practical guide to helping your child build resilience against the harder parts of life. 

    https://www.fegans.org.uk/building-resilience-in-children/
  • All you need to know about the “Development matters” guide from the Foundation Years

    What children learn is important, but how they learn is even more important. We want our babies to become life-long learners in today’s society.  If we can teach them how to learn, we have set them up for a successful life. 

    Early Education Specialists have launched a guidance manual to support the implementation of positive learning ideas and the Early Years Foundation Stages (EYFS).

    While this “Development Matters” document holds some very helpful information, it is filled with an overwhelming amount of information that takes hours to go through and is difficult to comprehend. Rather than reading through it yourself, we did the leg work for you. This article will give you easy to comprehend tips from the guide you need to help your baby succeed!

    Different Areas of Learning for your Child

    It is quite obvious that babies, toddlers and young children learn through different tasks and develop at their own rates and in their own ways.  No two children will develop at the same speed and in the same way. So if you are trying these tips from “Development Matters” on your second child, keep in mind the development may take place in their order. This article should not be used as checklists because some stages might be skipped.

    With that in mind, the document was created to understand what to expect during these vitally important years by focusing on the seven areas of learning and development.

    These are the seven areas of learning and development and their aspects

    • Personal, social and emotional development: focuses on making relationships, self-confidence and self-awareness, and managing feelings and behavior.
    • Physical Development: emphasis is on movement and handling as well as health and self-care.
    • Communication and language:  is aimed around listening and attention skills as well as understanding and speaking.
    • Literacy: is solely reading and writing skills.
    • Mathematics: helps with numbers, shapes, space, and measurement.
    • Understanding the world: focuses on children understanding people and communities, the world, and technology.
    • Expressive arts and design: allows your child to explore concepts by using medial and material and it exercises imagination.

    Sure it seems like a lot! But when you think about it, several of these aspects are used in one task at times. 

    How Do We Know Our Child is Learning Effectively?

    The four themes of early learning work together for children to learn effectively. These themes include:

    • A unique Child
    • Positive Relationships
    • Enabling Environments
    • The first three themes together makes the fourth: Learning and Development

    A Unique Child

    The first theme, “A unique child”, suggests that every child is different and can be resilient, capable, confident and self-assured. It is important to observe your child’s development and learning, assess their progress, and plan for next steps. Not all children will learn in the same order however they need support and positivity to develop their own identity. 

    Each child has their own ideas, makes their own links between ideas, and chooses the way they do things. It is important for them to feel safe and valued. Allow them to do things their way.  If you don’t know how to observe your child’s learning, here are a few things to look for:

    • Is your child thinking of ideas to solve small problems or finding new ways to do things?
    • Are they making links between words and objects?
    • Are they able to predict what is going to happen after observing a process?
    • Do they change the way they do things to better their activity?

    Positive Relationships

    Positive relationships help children thrive at a young age. This theme focuses of what the parent can do to help their child with effective learning. Children learn to be strong and independent through encouraging and positive relationships. They need to have a warm and loving sense of belonging. It is important for you to be sensitive and responsive to your child’s needs, feelings and interests. Supporting their efforts and setting clear boundaries helps a positive relationship emerge. Try some of the following:

    • Model behavior of a “thinker” by being curious and sometimes puzzled.
    • Give children time to talk and think. Patience with this isn’t always easy.
    • Support their independence and allow free play.
    • Encourage your child to describe problems they encounter and suggest ways to solve them together.

    Enabling Environment

    The environment your child is in has a great impact on their development. Enabling environments aid to their individual needs and create a strong partnership between you and your child. When planning activities, ask yourself, “Is this an opportunity for children to find their own ways to represent and develop their own ideas?” You don’t want your child to simply repeat someone else’s ideas. A few ways to help create an enabling environment for your child includes:

    • Offer stimulating resources
    • Provide resources that are relevant to the child’s culture and community
    • Use rich learning opportunities through play and playful teaching

    Learning and Development

    The final theme is “Learning and Development”. All children develop and learn in different ways but when your child is encouraged to learn their own way, you will see development flourish. With the first three themes in place the fourth theme follows automatically. Learning will occur and development will improve. Allow your child to play and explore the world while engaging them. Parents should provide motivation for their child to keep trying. Make learning enjoyable for them. 

    Start Early

    Babies can begin learning from birth. They will mimic what you do and will look for familiar faces. You can provide them with engaging and playful interactions from day one. They will mirror your actions and copy what you say, but they will begin to understand there are other ways to do things. 

    You will begin to notice your child’s confidence in trying new activities as they grow. Allow them to experiment so they may find activities they enjoy more than others.  The development of your child will become a positive experience leaving you with one less worry!

    Alternatively to “Development matters, there is a very informative and easy to read leaflet for parents to help them understand the development of their baby: What to expect? When?

    Resources from the Foundation Years website:

    Statutory framework for the early years foundation stage
    What to Expect when?

  • Monthly must reads for parents – October Edition

    Colder weather is an easy excuse to stop getting out and about in the outdoors. Resist the urge to let your kids hibernate until spring, even if the threat of rain and wind occurs there’s still so much to do and see. 

    Fresh air and exercise are vital for healthy happy kids. Most of them would be quite happy to be plonked down in front of their screens all weekend and it’s our job to encourage them away from the blue light for at least a few hours. 

    5 Ways to Keep Kids Away From Their Screens on Not a perfect parent

    ‘Not a perfect parent’ is a relatable parenting blog which provides comfort in the knowledge that we all struggle sometimes. Their thoughts on how to tempt your little ones away from the TV and their phones is super helpful. A craft day using leaves and feathers collected on a walk is an especially lovely idea. 

    This fab guide on Get Out with the Kids’

    Dark nights, Halloween and wild weather are the perfect excuse to have a day out in a spooky castle. Take your imagination, a sense of adventure and enjoy exploring some of the most magnificent buildings in the world. 

    This article has lots of inspiration for stunning castles to romp around. Children who love stories, history or Harry Potter will have a fantastic day out, just pick the one nearest to you. 

    Ways to enjoy your garden in winter on Gardener’s World Magazine

    The garden is your family’s private outdoor sanctuary and the most convenient place to involve your children in nature and encourage a love of the outdoors. 

    Winter is not a busy time in the garden but there is still plenty for little ones to help with. This article from ‘Gardener’s World Magazine’ isn’t aimed at children but it offers lots of ideas and tips on how to enjoy your outside space. 

    The section on how to encourage wildlife into your garden is perfect for animal loving children. Choosing and planting colourful flowers and shrubs into winter post would be a gorgeous way to spend a Sunday afternoon. 

  • Monthly must reads for parents – September Edition

    September arrives and suddenly…Boom! It’s winter!

    Christmas bits and pieces are appearing in the shops, the morning school run feels decidedly chilly and evenings are darker. Summer feels a very long time ago.

    Now, this might be an unpopular opinion, but I love this time of year and my blog round up celebrates all the joy that autumn can bring. 

    Autumn Winter trends 2019 on Motherhood the Real Deal
    Boots. Warm tights. Long sleeved dresses. A beautifully fitted coat. Snuggly scarves. Warm colours. Beautiful patterns. Winter fashion is sooooo much more fun than summer and much less stressful too! Forgotten to shave your legs?! Don’t worry about it…

    The lovely Tayla from ‘Motherhood. The Real Deal’ has created a guide to how to stay stylish this autumn. Happily, there’s both newness to be shopped for and old favourites to drag triumphantly from the back of the wardrobe. 

    Oreo cookie butter bars recipe on the Little Blog of Vegan
    September sees my family indulging in comfort food and the return of weekly baking. Our pear tree bears fruit at this time of year and homemade sweet and sticky pear and cinnamon crumbles fill the freezer. 

    The Little Blog of Vegan has always been a rich source of delicious recipes. I’m not vegan but I do appreciate a delicious recipe. These Oreo Cookie Butter Bars are a perfect after school snack for hungry little ones or a decadent dessert to serve at a dinner party. Enjoy! 

    Doctors’ Orders: kids and overscheduling from etch.com
    Winter is about snuggling down and appreciating the comforts of home. Gorgeously scented candles, rooms lit by fairy lights and bodies warmed by soft blankets. 

    This slowing down and time of ease and peace before the craziness of Christmas should be appreciated by children too. It’s great to have a tribe who are enthusiastic about hobbies and sports but relaxation and chill out time is just important. 

    This blog is a timely guide to making sure your kids have balance in their lives.

  • Must-read pregnancy books

    Pregnancy and birth. There are many billions of words to be read about these life-changing subjects.  Blogs, forums, websites, magazines and pregnancy books are all full of advice, fact and a fair bit of subjective nonsense. It is very easy to be utterly confused and bamboozled by it all. 

    So, what and who to believe? As a newly pregnant woman or dad-to-be, you will soon come to realise that EVERYONE is an expert in carrying, birthing and bringing up baby. 

    Here are our top 5 pregnancy books to read when you’re expecting, with all the answers to your questions or worries.

    Our recommended pregnancy books

    How to choose the best pregnancy books to read

    The blue lines on the pregnancy test signal the start of a million questions for first-time mums. Where should you find the answers to the worries that occur at 3am? My go-to tome of knowledge would be a good pregnancy book. The best pregnancy books should be full of the following elements: 

    • Facts from midwives, doctors, health visitors and scientists 
    • Objective useful advice from people who’ve experienced the rollercoaster of new parenthood
    • A sense of humour 
    • The attitude that every mother, father and baby is different and there should be flexibility  
    • Honesty
    • An acknowledgement that baby books for dads should be ‘a thing’ too. 

    Your life will soon become ALL about pregnancy and birth and babies. You will have random moments of panic, sudden urges to check on what your baby looks like in this week of your pregnancy (a pregnancy day-by-day book is perfect for this!) and the need to check that your baby shopping list has all that it should upon it. 

    Good pregnancy books should have all the information you need in one place. Here are some of the other reasons why I would pick books about pregnancy over digital media.

    • A well-thumbed, much loved and trusted book in your handbag will help you feel calm and in control (Even when you’re not!)
    • It’s a keepsake to cherish. ESPECIALLY if it has suspicious stains from the very early days of parenthood
    • You’ll refer to your baby guidebook for the next child. By the time you’re on baby number two, it’s you who’s the expert but a little backup and fact checking won’t hurt
    • Reading your phone or iPad in the bath or before going to sleep doesn’t have the same comforting feel. Or maybe I’m just old fashioned!?
  • Monthly must reads for parents – August Edition

    The children going back to school after a fun summer is always a significant moment in the year. 

    Parents are both relieved and a little sad. Teeny tiny new starters are excited and nervous. Existing pupils are grumpy about work and routine but are happy to be seeing their friends. 

    Organisation and shopping are key features of the end of August and early September. New ‘trendy’ shoes, bags with a million pockets, an unbelievable amount of school uniform and fluffy pencil cases. It’s stressful, busy, everything is out of stock and tempers can fray. 

    August’s must-read list will ease your family’s back-to-school angst and remind you that you’re not the only parent feeling overwhelmed. 

    10 ways to prepare yourself for your kid starting school on Brummy Mummy of 2
    ‘Brummy Mummy of 2’ has treated us to a beautifully emotive and funny article on preparing your little ones for school. It will make you laugh, cry a little and is full of great advice. 

    10 tips to simplify your family’s morning on The Chatter Block
    ‘The Chatter Block’ is based in San Francisco but is a fantastic blog for U.K parents to follow. Their articles are no-nonsense, practical but still full of empathy and warmth. I love this guide to creating a morning routine for your family. Follow this advice to ensure a calm, organised start to every weekday. 

    Peanut butter breakfast bars recipe on Mum in the Madhouse
    On the lookout for quick and nutritious breakfast or snack ideas? ‘Mum in the Madhouse’ shared the perfect recipe this month. Her Peanut Butter Flapjacks are divine and great for school run mornings and lunch boxes.

    The back to school guide for introvert on Mother Distracted
    ‘Mother Distracted’ has been my favourite blogger this August. The very lovely Linda and her family are fun and relatable. There’s a guide for parents who struggle with shyness at the school gates, some awesome lunch box ideas and a laugh out loud article on the joy of sending your kids back to school after six long (but amazing!) weeks. 

  • Monthly must reads for parents – July Edition

    The summer holidays are all about making memories. Sticky faces from seaside candy floss, tired little legs from a day at the zoo and the echoes of laughter from the slip and slide in a sunny garden.

    We’ve collated a few of our favourite articles from July which sum up a glorious English summer.

    Best days out in Yorkshire with kids on Toby and Roo
    Harriet from popular parenting blog ‘Toby and Roo’ tells parenting like it is. Here’s her guide to the best days out to be enjoyed in her beloved county of Yorkshire. It’s a comprehensive, information packed list and whether you’re local to Yorkshire or are planning a holiday there this is a must read!

    Parental guide for summer on Potato Pirates
    Term time is looming, but this awesome article from ‘Potato Pirates’ is still a great guide to school holidays. If you have struggled to survive the long break without copious amounts of evening gin, then bookmark this article for half term and the Christmas break.

    Recipe: dark chocolate dipped strawberry yogurt lollies on Slummy Single Mummy
    This is a FABULOUS blog featuring a recipe that both you and your little ones will love. I’ve tried it and these fruity, chocolatey treats are delicious. A healthy treat, the perfect way to get fruit into a fussy eaters diet and super easy to make. They’ll become a summer favourite and ‘Slummy Single Mummy’ is worth checking regularly for more family friendly recipes.

    Water safety tips for families on Dad Blog UK
    ‘Dad Blog UK’ isn’t just a fab read for Dads. He is full of practical advice for all parents and care givers. This is a sobering but essential read. When it’s hot, families head towards the cooling relief of water. Paddling pools in the garden, the local water park and the sea are all sources of fun and joy. However, water can be dangerous and needs to be treated with respect. Take a good look at this guide for how to keep your children safe around water in summer and for the rest of the year.

  • Monthly must reads for parents – June 2019 Edition

    Summer is finally here. I know it’s difficult to believe with the poor weather we’re having. To bring a bit of sun I made the June monthly read roundup about holidays abroad! Enjoy!

    Tips for visiting Venice with a toddler on Mudipie Fridays
    These pictures of their trip in Venice will transport you to Italy instantaneously. Plus Clare gives some pretty good tips.

    Our Italian Adventure: A day trip to Venice on Five Little Doves
    Talking about Venice, Laura also made a great post with amazing pictures of her day in Venice. Shame the sun was not out.

    A week in Rome on What The Red Head Said
    Still in Italy, what about visiting Rome? Donna made a pretty good list of all the must see in Rome.

    Things to do in Miami with Kids (Florida Road Trip Part 1) on Mummy Daddy Me
    If Italy is not for you, why not the US? I’m a big fan of Katie Ellison and her travel. If you have not seen her travel vlog yet, you must check it out! This blog post is a complement full of good recommendations if you’re visiting Miami.
    Update: part two is here

    Solar buddies review an easy way to apply suncream on Emmy’s Mummy
    Not exactly about travel but an interesting product review that could come handy if the sun ever shows up. I never heard of this sun cream before but seems like a great idea that would give kids a bit more independence in terms of protecting themselves from the sun. Let me know what you think

    Baby born on train given free rail travel for 25 years on the Independent
    A light read with a fun fact from Ireland.